Comments on: One of an unkind :|

By: manuscrypts

manuscrypts — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 05:44:15 +0000

ghazala: exactly what I replied to Balu… you’re objective enough to figure out that ‘yes’ doesnt work all the time, that doesnt happen always, and even if it does, its sometimes difficult to change what you’ve picked up for years..

animesh: agree to that

By: manuscrypts

manuscrypts — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 05:41:32 +0000

gauri: love the lines, and Shore’s character

TCWB: i can’t either

By: manuscrypts

manuscrypts — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 05:40:17 +0000

Balu: yes, we pick up experiences and that determines our behaviour.. when i said ‘teach’, its more to do with the experiences that parents give their children.. for example, if a kid watched his parent being rude to those ‘below’ him in a societal set up (waiters, maids etc), he might grow up thinking thats the norm, and may never be objective enough to give it a second thought… i’ve seen that happen in at least a couple of cases..

Maan: i can identify with that teaching
PS. of course you’ve got the post.. since its not exactly a ’specific’ post, your takeout might vary, but so what?

By: manuscrypts

manuscrypts — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 05:27:11 +0000

austere: yes, they might well be.. and it wasn’t a friend, only an acquaintance.. friends are way easier

jairam: kids do make up their mind from their experiences and what they see around them..i absolutely agree with you on the ‘bundle’ part, and that’s precisely my point – parents, wittingly or unwittingly provide quite a lot of experiences to kids, and that influences their behaviour…

By: Animesh Mukherjee

Animesh Mukherjee — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 16:37:22 +0000

A very intorspective read..being part of a society that teaches us,right from the time we are kids,that saying no(with varying degrees of agressive intent),is impolite and inhumane is certain situations,which ought to be accompanied by a feeling of guilt or would otherwise imply a sadist attitude..this is probably the loophole which people take advantage of..further,i’m of the opinion tht learnin the art of sayin no,is left upto the individual to fathom n accept…tc

By: Saying ‘no’ « La Vie Quotidienne

Saying ‘no’ « La Vie Quotidienne — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 13:30:43 +0000

[...] comes to me. The realisation was a surprise only because I come from a culture where practically nobody says ‘no’ without feeling a lot of guilt and associated useless [...]

By: ghazala

ghazala — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 10:46:24 +0000

hmm… a very reflective post…those (and similar) are the thoughts that occupy most space in my ‘parental’ reflections. I think i agree with balu in essence. i had a set of parents who gave much importance to tehzeeb and never had the heart to say no to anyone…i have a tough time myself with that. when assert myself i dread letting them down (or their ‘legacy’ and being ‘badtameez’. its a tough balancing act. and while i’m busy with my balancing act, i’ve no idea what my daughter is learning!!

By: TCWB

TCWB — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 12:54:31 +0000

I cannot help but smile. Why, I do not know.

By: gauri

gauri — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 15:25:10 +0000

That was a nice read, Manu. Let me follow my rule of when there’s a lot that you have to say, just let go. So I’ll just let go.

On another note, I clearly remember this episode of BL. Just love Shore’s and Crane’s lines.

By: Maan

Maan — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 09:52:53 +0000

Sometimes I think we as Indians or atleast our generation of Indians, we are raised in a manner which teaches us NOT to accept stuff from people unless it is absolutely essential. Personally I do that do…

p.s: I dont see any comment on my line of thoughts, so perhaps I didnt get the post .. yet..