In Rediff’s review of Kai Po Che, there’s a line that goes “Quoting from Bollywood, impromptu excursions and taking each other for granted without guilt is the prerogative of buddy-dom,…” That’s probably arguable, but if it is right, I now understand why my buddy count has been low since inception.
The first – excursions – I think, can be handled. That’s despite my obsession with planning. 🙂 The second is a completely different story though. I hate taking people for granted and if I end up doing it and realising it later, I get guilt pangs even after apologising. It probably comes from the premise that I hate being taken for granted and thus the “Do unto others as you would have them do to you” gets applied.
I can only vaguely begin to understand a friendship where people are taken for granted, but just thinking about it gives the other kind of friendship a cold formal feel. Once again, I think it’s a middle path scene – how a friend handles the freedom and treats it as a responsibility would define the relationship. How does it work for you?
until next time, grants and prices
Taking for granted and taken for granted all the time! Sans tHr guilt and sans the hate!
#whatcanisay Good for you, and may it be so always 🙂
I had a similar conversation back in 2001 after watching ‘Dil Chahta Hain’. A guy friend told me “That’s what guys are like. We tend to take each other for granted.” It was heartening to see that not *all* guys do that. Why do people think comfort and lack of respect have anything to do with each other?
Love your last but one line. It’s really thought-provoking and a great definition to put on what constitutes a good friendship.
I’m not sure if it’s purely a gender thing, but yes, happens with guys more, I think! 🙂